Archive for May 15th, 2009

Because women need to write their thoughts in a journal


All women are ‘creative’. It may be stamping, scrap booking, cooking the family meal or making velvet flowers; whatever it is, as long as it doesn’t actually challenge them or put them in an environment where they have to work very hard,  women will happily call themselves creative.

In order to facilitate the intense creative process of stamping, women need to track their journey – in a journal.

The intense introspection, the recognition of the universal in a moment – these things are nothing compared with the documenting of how long it took to cut up all the small bits of paper for today’s photo album, or how difficult it was simply to get out of bed this morning.

Journals will usually be accompanied at some point during the day by visits to a cafe or the purchase of a new journal (despite not being half way through the first). These additions are very important ways that women can feel creative with0out actually having to do anything creative.

In romance novels women live out the fanatsies of real world women. They are creative, or they have no desire to be creative and theregfore live with deeper integrity according to who they really are.


Because men misinterpret flattery

A young male looking at himself in a mirror

In the early days of a relationship when a woman flatters her man and gives him complete and total fidelity (physical, emotional and intellectual) the man thinks she is besotted with him.

Looking in the mirror, it occurs to him that this is natural and completely understandable.

It never occurs to  a man that she is thinking “He’ll treat me this way if I treat him this way”. Instead he believes his innate charm has driven her mad with love, lust and desire.

He starts to look around, thinking it would be unfair of him to withhold himself from all the other women.

He never works out that the woman he is in a relationship with is actually telling him how she likes to be treated. He thinks that it is completely natural that all the women he meets want to offer themselves and their lives to him.

In romance novels the men never assume a woman’s flatter (in all its forms – flirting, smiles across a room, sex and support / encouragement) has anything to do with his greatness. Instead he sees the real message the woman is trying to pass on and reciprocates in kind.

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